Having what you want, becoming who you wish to be or merely looking to change your life for the better is as simple as…believing you can.
Or is it?
And is believing as simple as it sounds?
If you do any research on the subject of how to motivate yourself to go after what it is you want or undertake any type of significant change, you will quickly find out that the prevailing wisdom among self-help experts and psychologists is that the reason most people do not move forward or do the things necessary to dramatically alter their lives is because they lack faith or belief that they will get what it is they are after.
They say that the key is to BELIEVE (with absolute certainty) that your efforts will be worthwhile, that your actions will alter your universe of carry you to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Popular theory has it that you start your journey with BELIEF, they claim that this is the pre-requisite, that in order to start you must have total conviction, because having rock solid belief will lead to a massive increase in your POTENTIAL, and once your POTENTIAL has been upgraded, you will have the firepower necessary for ACTION. The next part of the equation is that inevitably, your action will yield RESULTS, and at that point you have what is known as a positive feedback loop, because those results (the positive ones at least) will seal your faith in your ability to achieve and fuel your drive to take even greater action, which will lead to even stronger results and so on, and so on.
Now that sounds great, and I agree, if you do have an intrinsic, unshakable belief that you are going to get what you want, then yes, you will walk through walls. I mean it is absolutely brilliant if you are fortunate enough to have been born with belief, or to have had an epiphany, to be one of the lucky few who have magically arrived at a state of mind buttressed by absolute faith before you get to the starting line. But what if you are one of the millions upon millions of people who have not yet found unassailable conviction, or what if you did have it at one time but have now lost your faith? What then?
Let’s face it, we are in a tough economy and there are a lot of downtrodden and defeated souls out there. Many have been laid off, lost their jobs and/or simply cannot find a compelling new opportunity to motivate them to action. Many are no longer even sure they live in a land of opportunity, how many still believe that the streets are paved with gold (as my grandfather did and growing up I was absolutely sure of)? So whether you have never taken a big step before due to uncertainty or you have lived the high life, been successful, but have lost it all and are finding it hard to get motivated and believe again, does not having faith in your future at the outset eliminate you from the challenge to win the life of your dreams? Is belief absolutely necessary to moving forward and taking the steps required to change your life?
I am happy to confirm (from a life lived rising and falling and rising again) that thankfully, if you have lost your way, or you have forgotten what it was like to have faith, or are missing the type of determination that breeds confidence, that it makes no matter.
You do not need belief or absolute certainty in order to take action.
And, the even better news is that, it is in taking action that you will regain your faith if you have lost it and/or you will acquire the assuredness you have yet to come upon that what you are doing will lead you to your destination.
Saying that you need to be a believer before moving forward is like saying you need to have confidence before you can ever become confident. It is incongruent, a complete catch-22. In reality, it is through the very action of ACTING confident that you, in turn, eventually become confident. It does not matter at the outset whether you truly are or not, it is not what is going on inside your head that counts (the world at large has no clue as to your true thoughts or feelings), the only thing that is of any consequence is what the world sees, what matters most are the actions you undertake.
“A man is not judged by his thoughts or his words, he is judged by his deeds, he is judged by his actions.”
It is the manifestation of confidence, the mechanics of élan (talking in an assuring tone, standing with poise, walking with a brash stride) that makes the man, inside you may be as timid as a field mouse but you can always ACT like a lion. The beauty of this principle is that “as you be, so you are,” the assumption of character becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy (life imitating art) — by wearing a confident man’s shoes, by simply acting with confidence YOU WILL BECOME CONFIDENT.
And so it is with faith.
By simply taking action, you will have ACTED WITH BELIEF (irrespective of how you feel or what you think initially) your actions will have dictated otherwise. Through the mere act of moving forward, you will have set yourself on the path to living the life you want, to having the things you desire.
And it is here that you will discover your faith.
It is here where you will come upon the belief that many so desperately seek. It is the ACT OF MOVING FORWARD that signifies the ultimate vote of confidence, your very action in pursuit of your interests will underwrite a new belief system, it will set in place the foundation stone that you will build your faith upon, faith that you will reach your destination, wherever it may be, simply for having had the courage to act in the first place.
Belief is the natural and inevitable consequence of your actions.
So here is a different feedback loop, one that works all the time, on every occasion, for anybody, irrespective of what your level of confidence or conviction is. You begin with one move, could be a small change, could be a major dive into the deep end, either way you take some type of ACTION and as sure as day follows night your actions will yield RESULTS, the positive of which will lead to the BELIEF it is so often claimed we need to start with. And, that BELIEF that you discover along the way, will forever propel your actions to greater and greater heights as your RESULTS grow and grow and grow.
The magic lies within your actions, that is where belief lives, in that very first step.